Alcohol & Emotions (energy in motion)

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While many believe they are drinking an excessive amount of alcohol for pure pleasure, it actually may be that they are struggling to process repressed emotions. (E-motions=energy in motion).
These particular energies in motion start flowing within us which may cause us to feel heavy, uncomfortable, or stagnant (i.e, bored). So we pick up a drink in efforts to feel at ease, happy, calm, and full of vibrant energy.
There is a lack of stillness and inner peace within us, so picking up a drink to feel more present in our bodies, is usually our intention. When we do this excessively, all we are doing is repressing our undesirable emotions, only to be felt the next day at the same intensity or of higher intensity.
This is why it is common to feel either anxious, depressed, angry, heavy, fatigue, sick, etc. on a night of heavy drinking or on the following day.
I am not talking about drinking every now and then for social reasons. I am talking about drinking excessively, or drinking to suppress your emotions.
Rather than providing an operational definition for “drinking excessively” or “drinking to suppress your emotions”, in order to figure out if you fall into those categories, I’ll have you ask yourself these two questions:
 
1. “Do I drink too much?”
or
2. “Do I drink to suppress what I feel (e.g., stress, anxiety, boredom)”
If you have an inner voice within you saying “yes” to either one (regardless if your mind is trying to reject that inner truth) then, there is your answer.
Utilizing a spiritual/energetic approach, I have helped others (and myself) learn to process their emotions and feelings stored in the subconscious body in order to cut back on their drinking habits.
Based on my own personal experience… while I never had a chemical dependency on alcohol, I was indeed dependent on the substance to make me feel better.
It was my coping mechanism. Drinking 8+ drinks per week, naively believing I was just “young and having a good time”, when in reality, it was a lot deeper than that.
As years passed, I never intended to quit drinking because I didn’t even know it was a problem when it indeed, was (lol).
I say it was a problem because I was dealing with my emotions and uncomfortable feelings/thoughts in a self-sabotaging way: by drinking wine or tequila from the bottle and labeling it as “me time” or “just having fun”. 
As my passion for emotional alchemy and spiritual awareness grew, I started to set intentions to heal my emotional wounds and transmute my heavy energies into a lighter frequency.
For me, it was never about “quitting” drinking (because I was extremely unaware of my destructive habits/coping mechanisms). However, as I began to heal my childhood and relationship wounds, alcohol eventually began to fade from my experience organically and I began to resonate with it less and less.
I believe this is what happens when we learn to process our core emotional wounds and commit to bringing light into our inner darkness… Our unhealthy coping mechanisms begin to fade by default. 
I also believe when we learn to strengthen our ability to be present in the moment, we won’t always need a drink to bring more “liveliness” to the experience.
Now, it has got to a point where I do not even crave the alcohol effect or have any desire for it when I am out and about. I went from anxiously waiting to get off of work so I could pop champagne bottles to now… being very calm or “whatever” about the idea of alcohol and actually, not really resonating with it. 
What is even better, is that the process was fairly effortless, organic, and not forceful at all because I didn’t go into it with the intention to “quit drinking”. My intention was to address my emotional wounds – the core issue. 
Through Shadow Work, we can learn to dissect our emotional trauma and weed out our inner “demons” one by one. Our desire to pick up a drink in efforts to ease our anxiety or stress, fades or disappears completely. We begin to feel more cleansed and at peace in the moment when we do the inner work. 
Through Art Therapy and/or creative exercises, we can learn to sit with what we call “boredom” (i.e., stagnant energy or lack of stillness within us). Then, eventually we will stop picking up that Don Julio or Hennessey in efforts to provide joy or that “lit”/liveliness effect in our life.
Yeah, don’t get me wrong… you do, indeed, get that LIT effect when you throw that tequila back lol …but it’s all temporary and it only amplifies the stagnant energy harboring within your soul, which you will eventually have to face in due time. Utilizing our creative energies, we can learn to create a vibrant joy, peace, and liveliness from within, which is more beneficial to our physical and mental health.
Through mindfulness and grounding techniques, we can increase our ability to be fully present and engulfed in the moment. When we practice this, we won’t have to pick up a drink as often in order to silence our thoughts, or to feel a sense of stillness, enjoyment or tranquility. We will feel this way all the time without any substance!
In addition to a spiritual/energetic approach like I mentioned above, I also utilize an Applied Behavioral Analysis approach to assist my clients with their excessive alcohol intake. This includes: Fading techniques, reinforcement schedules, etc.
They go from feeling anxious or depressed upon waking up from a night of heavy drinking, to feeling more light and at peace within. They go from feeling mentally fatigue and stressed to feeling more clear-minded and energized in the body. Their days are filled with more joy, presence, light, and compassion because they are tapped into a higher frequency than before.
They eventually increase their level of overall well-being, and decrease their chances of disease and illness later in life. Moreover, their personal relationships improve as they unpack their emotional baggage and learn to cope with their emotional discomfort in a healthy way.
In my 2-month Holistic Health mentorship program, I help genuine souls who are tired of the patterns and habits that are weighing them down; and who are dedicated to their healing, ascension, and transformation.
I help them revert unhealthy behavioral habits, process their emotions, and resolve relationship conflict in order for them to feel more at ease and not need to turn to alcohol as a temporary fix.
The price for this offer is a respectable, low four-figure investment… a steal compared to the self-healing tools you will take on with you for life and the divine shift you will experience. 
If you’d like help reverting your excessive drinking habits, or any other self-sabotaging habits, in order to increase your quality of life, contact me and we will have a quick chat. If we are a good fit, we can get you started within a week.
xo,
Remi

Transcendence

Sometimes we will inevitably time travel into our past as we evolve (or the past will catch up to us). We move backwards in order to move forwards. When we are in tune with our subconscious, we can go into these lower dimensions while still remaining vibrationally aligned with a higher frequency. We must consistently remind ourselves to go into our lower dimensions with full conscious awareness. When the residues of your past selves or inner child make a loud appearance out of nowhere, honor them and welcome them. Matter of fact, have them take a seat at the table and make them some tea.

Go through any necessary old behavioral and emotional thought patterns with full conscious awareness and mindfulness. Dive into the deep end unapologetically, but make sure to remain as the observer. Dive into the space where all of your unresolved past pain resides. Don’t get caught up now. Dive in, then come up for air.. (or leave the front and back door open for your past selves to come as they please, and go once they’re done with their tea lol). To remain as the observer in non-resistant mode, is to master the art of transcendence.

Our subconscious mind will continue to run the show in our outer reality if we don’t dig deep into the shadow of our being. We must extract what is subconsciously weighing us down and give it back to source in order to free ourselves. We must re-discover old pain from childhood or from our past that has been unconsciously suppressed, and nurture it with with the love and care it was once deprived from.

As we re-discover any ignored or suppressed trauma/pain that has been lodged in the deep end, we can then resolve it (inwardly). Doing this in that short lil’ dive, or short lil’ tea session, we clear karmic debt. We free ourselves, our parents, our future children, and our ancestors. We connect to the essence of who we truly are and release the burdens that have been weighing ourselves and our lineage down. We generate our DNA to a higher frequency. We transcend our minds and hearts. We alchemize our darkness into divine light.

-Remi

Co-dependency vs. Love

Are you in love or in a karmic bond? Are you or were you in a solid relationship, or in a co-dependent bond? A lot of times we hurt and we crave a former lover assuming it was a true, genuine, and authentic love we just lost. Which it may have been, to a certain extent, but was that what it was at the root of it all? After healing our deepest wounds that stem from childhood or from our parents/ancestors, we may come to realize that what we thought was true love with our partner, was in fact, not an authentic, true love at all. It was more so attachment, co-dependency, fears, and/or a karmic bond wrapped in one. Of course, we may inevitably have deep care and love for that person. However, were we really IN love or in a true/authentic loving bond?

True love is effortless. It does not grip and hold the other tight for its own possession or selfish desires. It does not lie, fear, judge, or betray. True love is friendship. True love is safe, grounding, and free. You feel safe to be vulnerable, you feel safe to be yourself in your rawest form, and your heart space feels free. True love comes with honesty from both parties and in result, creates an everlasting, deep, undeniable trust. It is patient and it is kind. There is no belittling, there is no shame, and there are no efforts in attempting to change your partner to your liking. You appreciate and love them for all that they are. You are not focused on what they are or aren’t doing for you, but rather, you appreciate them for simply being and being able to experience their existence.

Now, of course, we may find true love and our fears from the past may interfere or come to the surface throughout the relationship. However, at the root of it all, it is not fear-based emotions or emotional trauma that is holding or binding the two individuals together (consciously or unconsciously). Sometimes our fears and co-dependency can be so loud and prominent that we can easily confuse it with real love. Being able to discern the difference comes with experience, wisdom, self-love, and taking the time to heal our core emotional wounds.

Are you truly missing the person, or are you missing the void they filled for you? Are you heartbroken mainly because they are out of your life, or did the separation between you two just trigger your fear of abandonment? Are you upset with the idea of them having eyes for someone else, or are you deep down, unconsciously questioning your worth? Are you genuinely, whole-heartedly in love with them, or are they just fulfilling something for you that you have not learned how to fulfill for yourself?

Thich Nhat Hanh – True Love

-Remi G.