“Stop Crying or I’ll Give You Something To Cry About”

As a child, if your emotional needs were often unmet or you were told things like… “Shut up, quit crying” or “If you don’t stop crying, I am going to give you something to cry about”…
you most likely had trouble processing your emotions as a teenager or young adult which resulted in: reckless behaviors or always “misbehaving” in school, substance abuse, social isolation, etc.;
and/or you probably still have trouble processing your emotions as an adult which has resulted in: anxiety, depression, panic attacks, unhealthy relationships, etc.
Although punishment or shame for crying (or expressing a need) is common in older generations, especially in certain cultures, it is far from healthy, and in fact, creates a plethora of issues later in life.
Whether a child is crying because their feelings are genuinely hurt or they’re crying because they can’t get a toy, pairing emotional expression with punishment/fear (e.g., threats) will more than often create disharmony later in life.
(Now, I’m not saying give the child the toy when he cries lol… I’m saying practice reinforcement and active listening rather than, “because I said so, now stop crying” lol….I’ll save child reinforcement vs. punishment for another day. Let me stay on topic.)
As children… if we got hit, got “the look”, or some type of punishment for expressing emotion, our brains were conditioned very early in life to associate “emotional expression + feeling” with “fear + punishment”.
We’ve essentially been trained to hold in our raw emotions … over and over again. This has the potential to, first and foremost, create physical imbalances later in life (i.e., disease, illness).
Emotions are “energy in motion (i.e., e-motion)” to put it simply.
They must flow in order for mental, emotional, and physical balance… so, if we were not provided the space, compassion, and listening ear to feel raw emotions as children, we learn to suppress our energies deemed as “unacceptable”.
This creates blockages in the emotional body because we have no idea how to simply feel, how to provide a non-judgmental space for ourselves, or how to validate what we feel/believe.
These blockages can eventually manifest into the physical body.
Moreover, if we had parents who did not provide space, compassion, and a listening ear for our emotions (especially if our sadness/anger had to do with them), we tend to attract romantic partners, friends, and/or supervisors with similar (or worse) disregard for our feelings.
We grow to believe that it is normal for people to ignore, reject, physically abuse, and/or turn the table on us when we are upset about the way they’re treating us.
Even worse, sometimes we believe this is consistent with love.
So we remain in this karmic loop of… emotional suppression, co-dependent relationships/friendships, physical/emotional abusive relationships, narcissistic supervisors, anxiety, depression, loneliness, physical illness or disease, estranged parent/child relationships, etc.
First and foremost, it’s important to forgive in our hearts all generations before us who started this generational curse, if you will.
Just like you are doing the best you can for yourself and your children, so were your parents… and their parents.. and their parents’ parents…etc.
Secondly, this generational curse (or cycle) has most likely lead you to reject your own needs and feelings. Therefore, in order to break the cycle and heal the emotional body, we must learn how to hold space for our emotions and make sure our needs are met….
doing this, allows you to provide that same compassion and space for your children as well, organically and effortlessly. You create healthy patterns for future generations.
The work starts with yourself, though.
Holding space for our emotions and making sure our needs are met, begins with nurturing and re-parenting our inner child.
It begins with feeling our emotions without judgment; and validating our own feelings when someone or something has triggered us.
It begins with separating ourselves from people and situations that require us to abandon and reject ourselves in order for the relationships or situation to work.
As we learn to process our emotions through the frequency of love, openness, and acceptance… we heal ourselves, we heal our bloodline, and we heal our children.
I help genuine and empathic souls heal/re-parent their inner child, learn how to process their emotions in a healthy & effective manner, and break generational curses through a variety of techniques (scientific + spiritual/energetic).
Their heart, their mind, and their physical body is brought back to harmony + relationships are restored/strengthened.
Ways to work with me right now:
✨2-month 1:1 Holistic Healing program
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Contact me if interested and we’ll have a quick chat to see if we’re a good fit.

Why We Mistake Passion & Love for Toxicity

Why we mistake passion and love for a relationship that is simply toxic, and how we can let go:
If you’ve ever been in a karmic or toxic relationship or are currently in one, you know the struggle of breaking free. Every time you gather the courage to move on, you’re right back in the arms of your karmic partner the following week or month.
The on and off, the breaking up to make up, the fighting to making love, the consistent verbal or physical abuse that turns into “I’m sorry and I love you”’s… a never-ending, vicious cycle. Sometimes lasting for years at a time. The feeling of relief you experience when reuniting after separation… the feeling of ecstasy you experience when the grudge and anger turns into love-making… this is often perceived as true love and passion, when it really is just an emotional addiction.
There is no denying that there is a profound love and connection present. That love and connection is what seems to keep us “loyal” and hooked onto them. And although there is a deep connection and genuine love present, the foundation of the bond is simply trauma rather than a true, authentic embodiment of love.
It is like being on an emotional roller coaster that is making you sick (mentally, physically, emotionally)… yet, you can’t seem to get off because of the thrill and strong gravitational pull towards that person.
The addictive, chaotic, emotional downs and ups become comfortable…or more so, it is severely uncomfortable when they’re absent… so you stay on the ride and become hooked.
So why is that?
Trauma can take on many forms. From living in chaotic environments growing up, to having a deeply rooted core-belief that you are unworthy.
Oftentimes, if we grew up in homes or lived lives full of chaos or instability, these emotional rollercoaster relationships full of instability IS what is normal for us… or for our subconscious mind, at least. Consciously, we are aware that this dynamic is draining, unhealthy, and completely undesirable. However, on a subconscious level, this is comfortable and normal. Chaos or inconsistency is all we really know.
Or.. let’s say we have a deeply rooted belief that we are “unworthy” or we fear being “alone”, we remain in these karmic relationships that bring us consistent anxiety and instability, simply because the bond fulfills that false core belief stored in the subconscious mind.
So if you’re trying to “let go” of a relationship that brings you more stress and anxiety, rather than love and stability, but cannot seem to break free…. It is because one must go deeper than surface level.
Recently, I have helped a client of mine finally break free from this constant back and forth battle by first and foremost, addressing the root chakra and teaching her to rebalance this energy center….
In her journey of breaking free from a karmic/toxic bond, we addressed her biggest fears and faced them head-on. Any wounds or core beliefs that suggested she was alone, abandoned, or unsafe were immediately addressed with nurture and compassion. 
Moreover, I assisted her with Shadow Work and Inner Child healing. Growing up she had a parental figure who constantly belittled her, called her an “idiot”, gave her silent treatment when she didn’t perform to their expectations, etc. (Coincidentally, the partner she was in a toxic relationship with, resembled her parental figure to a T).
As we worked on healing her inner child and inner teenager through shadow work, guided meditations, and addressed any known generational trauma, she began to revert the subconscious beliefs that attracted her to toxic, unstable relationships. Moreover, she began to recognize her worth on a deeper level, which has created space for healthier relationships to enter her life and a profound strength which led her to break free from unhealthy ones.
Moreover, she learned to fulfill her own needs and fully trust in her highest self on a deeper level. This allowed her to surrender to a higher knowing and live life on her own terms – at peace; fully flourishing in her potential; no longer turning to alcohol or binge eating to cope with her emotional pain; no longer jumping from partner to partner to fill her voids; and honoring herself for the divine woman she has always been.
As we begin to restructure and strengthen the FOUNDATION we have within ourselves, we will discover that the art of letting go comes more effortless and natural. We can let go of people, expectations, resentment, and unhealthy relationships with ease, grace, and comfort when we bring our root chakra back into harmony and reclaim our god-given birthrights. Our relationship with ourselves becomes more solid, which organically attracts healthier bonds and creates infinite streams of peace from within.
This takes effort, and this takes work, considering we sometimes may have been living most of our life with the subconscious belief that we are alone, unworthy, abandoned, and/or unsafe.
Strengthening your foundation and fulfilling your needs from within, will allow you to feel light and at peace with yourself rather than heavy and drowning in your abandonment wound upon waking up in the morning. You are calm in the body rather than anxiously wondering what your partner or ex partner is doing without you, or who they may be potentially loving on. You can feel safe in your own body, feel whole and complete whether on your own or with a partner.
You will be capable of fulfilling your own needs, accept your current reality with ease, live authentically and joyously, and fully flourish into the righteous, confident, and loving being that you were destined to be.
This magnificent transformation takes dedication, and a true desire to live up to your fullest potential. In my mentorship program, I help people who are dedicated to their transformation, healing, and ascension.
I will assist you in accelerating your self-transformative process through re-balancing compromised energy centers and helping you reclaim your divine birthrights, that way you can fulfill your needs on your own and live freely. I also provide you the tools you may need (e.g., guided meditations, ACT (acceptance commitment therapy) exercises, breathing techniques, etc.) to keep you balanced and centered throughout your unique journey in reclaiming your freedom.
This transformation will allow you to go from being stuck on this “never-ending” emotional roller coaster that is making you sick (emotionally and perhaps, physically) … to flourishing in more peace, tranquility, stability, and health.
Moreover, you will go from attracting unhealthy/toxic relationships (partners, friends, bosses, etc.) …to attracting healthier, more stable relationships with people who truly value and cherish you for who you are.
xo, Remi

Fear of Failure: An Illusory Belief

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FEAR OF FAILURE: An illusion that is usually stemmed from a deeply rooted belief that we are unworthy.

This fear has the potential to strap our souls down in chains, holding us back from embodying our truest selves and from pursuing our truest passions.

Moreover, this fear can cause us to go onto pursuing a career and pouring our energy into a field that doesn’t align with our most authentic self. Why? Because it is something we believe we are “good at” and most likely won’t fail at… when deep down on a soul level, you know that particular career is not in alignment with your true purpose or true, authentic passions.
Oftentimes, we are aware of this knowing as much as we try to ignore it; and you may ignore it because if you pursued your gifts and talents, you may not believe you could create abundance out of it.
You believe you are incompetent. Or perhaps have some type of inner dialogue suggesting there are “other people who are better than me at this”.
The belief of: “I can’t possibly make a living off pursuing what I LOVE to do”…. “if I fail, I’ll be embarrassed, so I’ll stick with this career that I’m good at even though it’s not something I’d do for free”.
The list goes on. We allow this fear of failure to take over, leading us to live our life unfulfilled on a soul level. Why?
Because we’d rather leave that core wound of “I’m not worthy” untouched and unbothered, than dig deep and do the inner work that will set us free.
So, how can we change this in order to live in abundance and live in alignment with our most authentic self?
We dissect the root of our fear of failure and shift those beliefs into ones that are in alignment of what is true; and what is true is that we ARE worthy and competent of manifesting our dreams into reality, worthy of living our truest passions, and worthy of pursuing what we LOVE for energetic (e.g., financial) exchange.
Even if it takes time and inner work… we are most certainly worthy and competent of what our heart desires. That is our birthright.
Although everyone’s core beliefs are different, most of the time, fear of failure is stemmed from the belief that you are unworthy of blessings and miracles. These beliefs are developed in childhood and/or throughout life circumstances.
Example 1: Let’s say you “failed” at something you worked really hard for in the past. In your mind, that could’ve translated as “I am unworthy of what I work hard for” or “I’m unworthy of my blessings”.
Now it’s 10 years later and you are: pursuing a career that is safe (but not fulfilling), repressing your true passions and desires, quitting on your dreams because in your mind, you’re “not competent”, etc.
Example 2: Let’s say your parents told you something as a child repetitively or acted in a way that made you believe you were bad, unwanted, the sh** show of the family, etc. In your mind as a child or teenager, that translates as “I am unworthy of love”. (The root is still unworthiness, regardless).
Now it’s 20 years later, and you’re repressing all your god-given gifts and talents because deep down, you believe they aren’t worthy of recognition or up to par.
The list can go on, which is why it is important to dissect core beliefs that are harboring in your shadow and blossoming into this fear of failure.
This is where I begin to assist you in SHIFTING your beliefs.
We can go back to example 1… the instance in which you “failed” at something.
When we look at it from an objective perspective, we may come to realize that we gained a necessary skill in that pursuit which has assisted us tremendously in our higher calling.
Or perhaps, in the midst of pursuing that thing we “failed” at, we crossed paths with someone who is still in our lives today that we love very much.
So did we really fail? Or was it destined that we had to just go do that thing in order to hone a skill, to meet someone special, etc.
Yes, things may have not gone OUR way. But, it went the way it was supposed to in order for you to grasp what you needed, but that doesn’t mean you failed; nor, does it dictate your worth.
Example 2: We can go back to the time where our parents said or acted in a way that suggested we were unworthy of love. Looking at it from an objective perspective, we may come to recognize that they may have been dealing with their own emotional traumas or issues.
They couldn’t hold compassion for themselves in that moment due to lack of resources perhaps… leading them to project onto us. We then realize their lack of compassion or their emotional avoidance had nothing to do with our worth, but rather, their own lack of self-awareness.
When we recognize this, we then reclaim our divine birthright of being WORTHY.
This takes practice, it is not an overnight thing. However, when we begin to get the hang of Shadow Work and Inner Child healing, we then begin to dissect the beliefs that are holding us hostage and shift them into beliefs that are true. And what is TRUE for absolutely EVERYONE is that we are worthy.
You are worthy of all your heart desires. You are competent enough to pursue all of your passions and your divine purpose. Your talents and gifts are worthy of recognition and abundance.
No matter how long it takes to dig the weeds out of our minds that hold us hostage, we will find freedom.. and eventually begin to move through love and courage more often than through fear and safety.
In my 2-month Holistic Health Mentorship program, I help people with their fear of failure, amongst any others they may encounter. Through journal prompts, intuitive mentoring, guided meditations, shadow work, and inner child healing, we begin to shift beliefs they’ve been harboring for years. Beliefs that no longer serve their highest good. We shift them into ones that are true so they can live in alignment with their true, authentic, passionate selves.
This leads to a more fulfilled heart, soul, and life. It leads to them being more open to abundance and blessings. They begin to embrace and embody their heart’s REAL passions; they begin to pursue dreams that reflect their authentic nature; they start to embrace their god-given gifts and talents; and most importantly, start moving and showing up as their Highest Self, rather than unconsciously allowing their fear of failure to take driver’s seat.
The price for this offer is a respectable low four-figure investment, but my rates will go up over time.
If my energy speaks to you and you’d like to work with me, contact me and we’ll have a quick chat to see if we’re a good fit.
xo, Remi

Alcohol & Emotions (energy in motion)

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While many believe they are drinking an excessive amount of alcohol for pure pleasure, it actually may be that they are struggling to process repressed emotions. (E-motions=energy in motion).
These particular energies in motion start flowing within us which may cause us to feel heavy, uncomfortable, or stagnant (i.e, bored). So we pick up a drink in efforts to feel at ease, happy, calm, and full of vibrant energy.
There is a lack of stillness and inner peace within us, so picking up a drink to feel more present in our bodies, is usually our intention. When we do this excessively, all we are doing is repressing our undesirable emotions, only to be felt the next day at the same intensity or of higher intensity.
This is why it is common to feel either anxious, depressed, angry, heavy, fatigue, sick, etc. on a night of heavy drinking or on the following day.
I am not talking about drinking every now and then for social reasons. I am talking about drinking excessively, or drinking to suppress your emotions.
Rather than providing an operational definition for “drinking excessively” or “drinking to suppress your emotions”, in order to figure out if you fall into those categories, I’ll have you ask yourself these two questions:
1. “Do I drink too much?”
2. “Do I drink to suppress what I feel (e.g., stress, anxiety, boredom)”
If you have an inner voice within you saying “yes” to either one (regardless if your mind is trying to reject that inner truth) then, there is your answer.
Utilizing a spiritual/energetic approach, I have helped others (and myself) learn to process their emotions and feelings stored in the subconscious body in order to cut back on their drinking habits.
Based on my own personal experience… while I never had a chemical dependency on alcohol, I was indeed dependent on the substance to make me feel better.
It was my coping mechanism. Drinking 8+ drinks per week, naively believing I was just “young and having a good time”, when in reality, it was a lot deeper than that.
As years passed, I never intended to quit drinking because I didn’t even know it was a problem when it indeed, was (lol).
I say it was a problem because I was dealing with my emotions and uncomfortable feelings/thoughts in a self-sabotaging way: by drinking wine or tequila from the bottle and labeling it as “me time” or “just having fun”. 
As my passion for emotional alchemy and spiritual awareness grew, I started to set intentions to heal my emotional wounds and transmute my heavy energies into a lighter frequency.
For me, it was never about “quitting” drinking (because I was extremely unaware of my destructive habits/coping mechanisms). However, as I began to heal my childhood and relationship wounds, alcohol eventually began to fade from my experience organically and I began to resonate with it less and less.
I believe this is what happens when we learn to process our core emotional wounds and commit to bringing light into our inner darkness… Our unhealthy coping mechanisms begin to fade by default. 
I also believe when we learn to strengthen our ability to be present in the moment, we won’t always need a drink to bring more “liveliness” to the experience.
Now, it has got to a point where I do not even crave the alcohol effect or have any desire for it when I am out and about. I went from anxiously waiting to get off of work so I could pop champagne bottles to now… being very calm or “whatever” about the idea of alcohol and actually, not really resonating with it. 
What is even better, is that the process was fairly effortless, organic, and not forceful at all because I didn’t go into it with the intention to “quit drinking”. My intention was to address my emotional wounds – the core issue. 
Through Shadow Work, we can learn to dissect our emotional trauma and weed out our inner “demons” one by one. Our desire to pick up a drink in efforts to ease our anxiety or stress, fades or disappears completely. We begin to feel more cleansed and at peace in the moment when we do the inner work. 
Through Art Therapy and/or creative exercises, we can learn to sit with what we call “boredom” (i.e., stagnant energy or lack of stillness within us). Then, eventually we will stop picking up that Don Julio or Hennessey in efforts to provide joy or that “lit”/liveliness effect in our life.
Yeah, don’t get me wrong… you do, indeed, get that LIT effect when you throw that tequila back lol …but it’s all temporary and it only amplifies the stagnant energy harboring within your soul, which you will eventually have to face in due time. Utilizing our creative energies, we can learn to create a vibrant joy, peace, and liveliness from within, which is more beneficial to our physical and mental health.
Through mindfulness and grounding techniques, we can increase our ability to be fully present and engulfed in the moment. When we practice this, we won’t have to pick up a drink as often in order to silence our thoughts, or to feel a sense of stillness, enjoyment or tranquility. We will feel this way all the time without any substance!
In addition to a spiritual/energetic approach like I mentioned above, I also utilize an Applied Behavioral Analysis approach to assist my clients with their excessive alcohol intake. This includes: Fading techniques, reinforcement schedules, etc.
They go from feeling anxious or depressed upon waking up from a night of heavy drinking, to feeling more light and at peace within. They go from feeling mentally fatigue and stressed to feeling more clear-minded and energized in the body. Their days are filled with more joy, presence, light, and compassion because they are tapped into a higher frequency than before.
They eventually increase their level of overall well-being, and decrease their chances of disease and illness later in life. Moreover, their personal relationships improve as they unpack their emotional baggage and learn to cope with their emotional discomfort in a healthy way.
In my 2-month Holistic Health mentorship program, I help genuine souls who are tired of the patterns and habits that are weighing them down; and who are dedicated to their healing, ascension, and transformation.
I help them revert unhealthy behavioral habits, process their emotions, and resolve relationship conflict in order for them to feel more at ease and not need to turn to alcohol as a temporary fix.
The price for this offer is a respectable, low four-figure investment… a steal compared to the self-healing tools you will take on with you for life and the divine shift you will experience. 
If you’d like help reverting your excessive drinking habits, or any other self-sabotaging habits, in order to increase your quality of life, contact me and we will have a quick chat. If we are a good fit, we can get you started within a week.


Sometimes we will inevitably time travel into our past as we evolve (or the past will catch up to us). We move backwards in order to move forwards. When we are in tune with our subconscious, we can go into these lower dimensions while still remaining vibrationally aligned with a higher frequency. We must consistently remind ourselves to go into our lower dimensions with full conscious awareness. When the residues of your past selves or inner child make a loud appearance out of nowhere, honor them and welcome them. Matter of fact, have them take a seat at the table and make them some tea.

Go through any necessary old behavioral and emotional thought patterns with full conscious awareness and mindfulness. Dive into the deep end unapologetically, but make sure to remain as the observer. Dive into the space where all of your unresolved past pain resides. Don’t get caught up now. Dive in, then come up for air.. (or leave the front and back door open for your past selves to come as they please, and go once they’re done with their tea lol). To remain as the observer in non-resistant mode, is to master the art of transcendence.

Our subconscious mind will continue to run the show in our outer reality if we don’t dig deep into the shadow of our being. We must extract what is subconsciously weighing us down and give it back to source in order to free ourselves. We must re-discover old pain from childhood or from our past that has been unconsciously suppressed, and nurture it with with the love and care it was once deprived from.

As we re-discover any ignored or suppressed trauma/pain that has been lodged in the deep end, we can then resolve it (inwardly). Doing this in that short lil’ dive, or short lil’ tea session, we clear karmic debt. We free ourselves, our parents, our future children, and our ancestors. We connect to the essence of who we truly are and release the burdens that have been weighing ourselves and our lineage down. We generate our DNA to a higher frequency. We transcend our minds and hearts. We alchemize our darkness into divine light.


Generational Trauma

Before jumping into generational trauma, let’s address the definition of “trauma”. Trauma is an experience that occurs in an individual’s life that causes mental, physical, and/or emotional harm. It can be a disturbance to the individual’s life and cause one to feel a lack of control over the situation. In the mental health setting, trauma can be considered a “big T” trauma or “little t” trauma. For instance, a death of a family member would be considered a “big T” trauma and something like emotional abuse would be considered a “little t” trauma. Some people may experience multiple “little t” traumas, others may experience one “big T” trauma, and some may experience a mixture of the two. Nonetheless, both forms of trauma are valid in the way they impact an individual’s emotions, mental state, and overall well-being. A few other causes of trauma can be severe illness or injury, sexual or physical abuse, natural disasters, loss of financial income, etc. “Big T” traumas are usually life-threatening and/or associated with PTSD. These cause serious distress to the individual; and while “little t” traumas are not required to meet PTSD criteria, evidence now shows that repeated exposure to “little t” traumas (e.g., emotional abuse) can cause similar or greater distress than one “Big T” traumatic experience. In result of trauma, emotional and physical reactions occur, such as anxiety, digestive issues, lack of confidence, insomnia, intrusive thoughts, etc. In children or young adults, trauma is apparent through reactions as well (e.g., anger, frequent tummy aches, attention-seeking behaviors, consistently misbehaving at school, avoiding school, etc.).

With all of this in mind, we can now consider the term generational trauma. From a scientific lens, generational trauma, or intergenerational trauma, is transferred in between generations. A child can hold core wounds from a biological parent off of unconscious loyalty, and that parent is holding the wounds of their parent, and so forth. Generational trauma will run down one’s lineage until someone breaks the pattern. For example, emotional wounds pertaining to grief, lack of self-worth, physical disease, financial struggle, amongst others can be passed down to the child. The child will experience similar life situations that trigger these core beliefs/wounds to be felt or re-lived since they have been embedded into their DNA. The wounds and core beliefs a family hold as a unit will in result, paint its own unique family dynamic. From a spiritual standpoint, it is said that whatever our parents or ancestors experienced (e.g., racism, emotional abuse, substance abuse, relationship attachments, illness, poverty, etc.), we may also experience similar events in this lifetime. Moreover, theories suggest that until the generational “curse” is broken, it will continue to be passed down. It is said that our ancestors in heaven are guiding us through the process of healing ourselves. As we heal ourselves, we also heal our ancestors and we prevent our children/future children from going through similar “passed-down” traumas.

How can we identify generational trauma within ourselves? The answer to this is to become aware of patterns in your family. Do you see a similarity in the way you handle your emotions and the way your mother/father or grandmother/grandfather handles theirs? Do you see a pattern in the way your emotions are validated by your significant other and the way your father or mother validates their own significant other’s emotions? Perhaps you have gone through poverty, and your grandmother, and grandmother’s father experienced similar situations. It is also said that irrational fears can be due to generational trauma. Moreover, we can identify generational trauma in many ways, such as, through shadow work and through uncovering core beliefs that are deeply engrained in our subconscious mind.

The possibilities in discovering the generational trauma we hold in our DNA are endless. Through inner work, dream analysis, and self-discovery we can unpack baggage and heal core beliefs that have been passed down to us for generations. We can break these patterns for not only ourselves, but for our children or future children as well. As we discover our roots on a spiritual and psychological level, we can heal not only ourselves, but we help heal our parents and our ancestors. As we heal these core beliefs, we break generational curses within our lineage and within the entire collective, since all is connected.

Author: Remi G.
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Benefits of Social Media Fasting

Just like fasting from food is beneficial for the mind and spirit, fasting from social media has similar effects. Scrolling through social media throughout the day can have numerous effects on our mind, as well as the body and spirit, since they are interrelated. Everything we read, watch, and listen to is being transmitted into our subconscious mind. Our subconscious mind makes up 95% of our entire mind, which can be an issue, being that we are not conscious of what resides there.

If it were true that our physical reality (i.e., our life) is a reflection of our subconscious mind (i.e., inner reality), wouldn’t it be of major importance to protect and cleanse that aspect of ourselves? Social media is a form of energy exchange within itself. As we intake certain information, pictures, videos, dialogue, etc., we are in essence, feeding our subconscious mind (i.e., our inner reality). In addition to that, we may find ourselves unconsciously comparing our lives to others, we may develop unconscious feelings of unworthiness, etc. Even if that were not the case, we are still nonetheless immersed into another reality and exchanging a form of energy as we mindlessly scroll through our timelines. In result, this can affect our mental or spiritual energy if we are not mindful of the content we scroll through, or if we’re not mindful of how our inner energy is being used.

Taking mini or long social media breaks has been proven to increase levels of inner peace and clarity; it has also been proven to decrease levels of stress, depression, and anxiety. Through these breaks, we can gain awareness of subconscious thoughts or inner dialogue that we may have been unaware of before. As we cleanse our subconscious mind during social media fasts, we can gain clarity on certain things in our life. Moreover, we gain a greater sense of inner peace due to the simple fact that our entire Being is being cleansed, and we increase our ability to tap into our intuition much more efficiently.

-Remi G.

The Dark/Shadow Side

What is the Shadow Self? What is our darkness, exactly? A lot of us define this as our insecurities, our triggers, our inner demons, our ego, etc. Psychologist, Carl Jung, defines this concept as the unknown or unconscious aspect of our personality. I’ve noticed a lot of people are naturally programmed to reject this side of ourselves for various reasons, but in my opinion, that is possibly the worst thing you can do for yourself. Whatever you define your Shadow Self as, I encourage you to embrace that side of you, rather than reject or despise it. You may ask, “How do I know what my dark side is?” There are various ways to identify it. Sometimes you’ll discover it through meditation and deep self-discovery. Sometimes you will notice your shadow erupt during a very minor or severe argument, disagreement, comment, specific scenario, etc. We can sometimes come to know our shadow self when we find ourselves judging others or when we feel an irritation towards someone’s actions/beliefs. Although our feelings and emotions that flare up during a specific trigger may sometimes appear insignificant, they actually hold immense value and deeper truths about yourself.

The dark side or your shadow self can be the side of you that wants to scream in anger or despair. It can be the side of you that acts out almost like a child when you are emotionally triggered by someone or something. It is the pain or discomfort underneath our emotional dysregulation; and if we dig deep enough underneath that pain, we will discover the root or source of it all. Let it be known that there is no such thing as spiritual ascendance without addressing both the light and dark. Moreover, there is no such thing as elevating in your relationships, career, and self-growth journey without addressing your shadow self. As we come to understand where our anxiety, depression, and/or anger is stemmed from, we are then capable of gaining a deeper understanding of our Shadow Self, or unconscious side of ourselves. However, before seeing or understanding where it is rooted from, we must gain awareness. If you have no self-awareness of your emotions, thoughts, actions, or feelings, how can you heal or ascend? Awareness comes first. Healing and/or spiritual elevation follows.

Our dark side is not inherently bad or good… it just is. It is the unconscious or suppressed side of ourselves and with no awareness of this aspect, there is no true growth or self-discovery. As we gain this deeper understanding of ourselves, we can then learn how to nurture, love, trust, and listen to ourselves appropriately and more compassionately. When we learn how to love, nurture, and embrace our own wounds, we will then learn how to nurture the shadow side of others as well with no judgement and with pure love.

As we increase our ability in seeing through emotional triggers by understanding that it is simply pain buried underneath veils of illusion, we can then learn how to transcend it appropriately with pure compassion and light. We cannot fight our darkness. It will get louder. We cannot push it to the side hoping it will disappear. It will roll back over. If we wanted to see better in a dark room, we would turn the light on. It is the same thing with our soul, our emotional body, or our conscious Being. We learn how to find the light and we learn how to nurture the shadow side of ourselves that was restricted from authentic love at one point in our life or for our whole life. In result, we heal, we see, we know, and we transcend into a deeper level of peace and higher level of consciousness/being.

Written by,
Remi G.