Tapping into the Feminine Goddess

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It’s very common for healers, mothers, nurses, coaches, and caregivers… to constantly be in their masculine essence – always GIVING. Leaving little to no energetic room to truly and deeply receive.
These women may often feel consistently exhausted and as if their energy is depleted, or feeling as though their own needs are hardly ever met.
Our masculine energies are all about providing, giving, directing, analyzing, problem-solving etc. And while this is a beautiful thing, it becomes unbalanced when the inner masculine is overactive and when we fail to bring our divine feminine (receiving) into harmonious balance.
(We all have an inner masculine and inner feminine no matter your gender).
Another way our masculine energies can lack equilibrium is when we constantly have an army of shields and swords around our hearts in efforts to protect ourselves from harm or pain…
and in result, we slowly extinguish the powers of our beautiful, magical divine feminine… because what we are doing, is taking ourselves out of the space of receptivity.
Our divine feminine is all about receptivity/receiving. It’s about unconditional love, non-linear (flow), wild, intuitive, creative, play, sensual.
This is the energy that energetically heals our physical bodies, attracts abundance, radiates our entire being (and our surroundings) with pure magnificent love, and births all beautiful things to life.
As women, when we are disconnected from the divine feminine and operate from a disempowered masculine, we may find that we attract men who aren’t rooted in their own masculine essence (I.e, unreliable, dishonest, disloyal, inconsistent, emotionally unavailable, flighty).
Moreover, when we lose touch of the divine feminine, we may find ourselves over-working to a point of exhaustion all the time, unfulfilled and empty inside.
We may even find ourselves striving for prestigious careers, some type of financial status, degrees, and/or job titles that aren’t truly and genuinely in alignment with our passion or soul’s calling.
Or perhaps, we may find ourselves slaving for money, running ourselves dry, all for a dollar. Basically, working our ass off (solely in the 3D realm) for the bag;
and while there’s nothing wrong with this because sometimes we gotta do what we gotta do, it is also important to consider…
we literally have a sacred portal between our legs that brings life to earth. This portal is the same portal that has equal potential to bring abundance into our life with ease.
In other words, when we begin to tap into this portal, there is less need to work our ass off to a point of exhaustion because we realize we have the universe at our fingertips and can birth all of our heart’s desires into existence… This includes love, career opportunities aligned with our soul, improved health, etc.

An unbalanced, overactive masculine essence has the potential to prohibit us from accessing these divine portals.
Disempowered masculine energies can be a byproduct of being taken advantage of, abused, and/or abandoned in our past.
We basically have conditioned ourselves to constantly put up a barrier around our hearts and souls when we were mistreated so often as children or young adults.
Then, adulthood comes around and these barriers that we had to put up to block us from pain in our past, are the same barriers that are blocking the energy of love and abundance from flowing into our energetic field in the now.
Women with disempowered or “toxic” masculine energies (hello, past versions of me), are the type to cut you all the way off if she simply has the THOUGHT that you’re trying to cross her lol. There are many examples, but I think this is a common one.
Basically..
Strong, rigid, hard, uncompromisable boundaries and barriers.
Again, this is 100% understandable and valid considering what caused us to move in this manner, in the first place.. You most likely have been through hell and back.
But it’s time to put a few of those 20 ft walls and swords down, sis. (Keyword: a few… it’s okay to have solid boundaries).
Because when we CONSISTENTLY and over-excessively operate from this space, we begin to lose grip of the divine feminine…. our inner healing powers, the infinite portals of love we obtain within, our sensuality, our creative energies
…all of our inner magic, in other words, becomes far beyond reach.
Now your physical body may not be working as it should, now your life may have no color, now love doesn’t surround you, now you’ve watched 20 episodes of that Netflix show without creating something, now you haven’t had an orgasm in a hot minute…. life is pale and dull.
If that is the case, it might be time to bring your divine feminine goddess back to life.
Don’t worry about setting boundaries… don’t worry about if you’re not giving enough to those you love… don’t worry about not providing enough to your clients, children, or anyone you love. Your masculine energies are already in overdrive, remember lol.
When working with my clients who have overactive masculine energies, I assist them in re-awakening the divine feminine through energy work (e.g, shadow work, yoni healing, dance, and providing educational resources).
We focus on the art of receiving, dancing, creating, laughter, and freedom.
I assist in:
Showing them how and when it is time to dance in the chaotic, insecure flow of life
Encouraging them to laugh and shrug when decisions become too overbearing
Reminding them every now and then to put the clock down and not check the time, schedule, or errands that “must” get done…
and simply guiding them in connecting to nature and to their wild nature, one day at a time.
Then, slowly but surely they begin to awaken the divine feminine… a powerful love that radiates through every cell of their being
…filling every corner of her home, and creating a captivating, healing presence to her vibrant aura.
When we begin to connect with this energy, people will be DRAWN to you. People will compliment your glow and radiance! It is magnetic.
The divine feminine who was has been there all along, but had to hide for a bit, because her masculine needed to provide and give over-excessively for whatever reason, is waiting for you to tap into her energy and receive her own needs and blessings with an open heart.
The divine feminine who hid in a dark cave because the divine masculine needed to set 50 million barriers for all the a**holes, bullies, and disrespectful people in your life that were undeserving of you… is there, waiting to flourish in all areas of your life.
When we tap into her energy, we can protect ourselves and demand to be treated as the sacred beings that we are without embodying a “toxic” masculinity so consistently (e.g., barriers, walls, that “don’t cross me” attitude, rigid/strict boundaries).
The divine feminine attracts and RECEIVES her blessings (love, health, prosperity, career opportunities aligned with her soul, etc.) effortlessly with a grateful and humble heart
…without the guilt, without the shame, without the exhausting 50+ hour work weeks, and without feeling like she is not deserving.
The divine feminine expects to be treated like royalty by the universe because she is WORTHY of it.
And so the universe responds to this energy by providing.
She eventually begins to create space and gradually opens the door for an abundance of love and blessings to flow in… allowing herself the time to rest, play, create, and only be of service when need be.
She does not chase a man, she does not chase a bag. She bathes in her own self-love and allows her god-given blessings to gravitate her way.
Learning to reactivate the powers of the divine feminine and bring both our masculine and feminine energies into magnificent balance, is one part of my 2-month 1:1 Holistic Healing program.
Through exercises customizable for you, I guide you into awakening your divine feminine…. the deepest layers of love, receptivity, compassion, and flow.. so you can move through life with effortless wisdom and grace, while still keeping your boundaries solid.
In doing so, your ability to heal your body is heightened. Your ability to tap into and trust your intuition, significantly increases.
You will find more ease in attracting and RECEIVING every single one of your blessings with an open heart (love, career opportunities, health, freedom, inner peace, etc.)…
The price for this offer is a respectable, low four-figure investment… a steal compared to the tools you will take on with you for life and the divine shift you will experience in your current reality.
If my energy resonates with you and you’d like to work with me, contact me and we’ll have a quick chat to see if we’re a good fit.
xo,
Remi

Why We Mistake Passion & Love for Toxicity

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Why we mistake passion and love for a relationship that is simply toxic, and how we can let go:
If you’ve ever been in a karmic or toxic relationship or are currently in one, you know the struggle of breaking free. Every time you gather the courage to move on, you’re right back in the arms of your karmic partner the following week or month.
The on and off, the breaking up to make up, the fighting to making love, the consistent verbal or physical abuse that turns into “I’m sorry and I love you”’s… a never-ending, vicious cycle. Sometimes lasting for years at a time. The feeling of relief you experience when reuniting after separation… the feeling of ecstasy you experience when the grudge and anger turns into love-making… this is often perceived as true love and passion, when it really is just an emotional addiction.
There is no denying that there is a profound love and connection present. That love and connection is what seems to keep us “loyal” and hooked onto them. And although there is a deep connection and genuine love present, the foundation of the bond is simply trauma rather than a true, authentic embodiment of love.
It is like being on an emotional roller coaster that is making you sick (mentally, physically, emotionally)… yet, you can’t seem to get off because of the thrill and strong gravitational pull towards that person.
The addictive, chaotic, emotional downs and ups become comfortable…or more so, it is severely uncomfortable when they’re absent… so you stay on the ride and become hooked.
So why is that?
Trauma can take on many forms. From living in chaotic environments growing up, to having a deeply rooted core-belief that you are unworthy.
Oftentimes, if we grew up in homes or lived lives full of chaos or instability, these emotional rollercoaster relationships full of instability IS what is normal for us… or for our subconscious mind, at least. Consciously, we are aware that this dynamic is draining, unhealthy, and completely undesirable. However, on a subconscious level, this is comfortable and normal. Chaos or inconsistency is all we really know.
Or.. let’s say we have a deeply rooted belief that we are “unworthy” or we fear being “alone”, we remain in these karmic relationships that bring us consistent anxiety and instability, simply because the bond fulfills that false core belief stored in the subconscious mind.
So if you’re trying to “let go” of a relationship that brings you more stress and anxiety, rather than love and stability, but cannot seem to break free…. It is because one must go deeper than surface level.
Recently, I have helped a client of mine finally break free from this constant back and forth battle by first and foremost, addressing the root chakra and teaching her to rebalance this energy center….
In her journey of breaking free from a karmic/toxic bond, we addressed her biggest fears and faced them head-on. Any wounds or core beliefs that suggested she was alone, abandoned, or unsafe were immediately addressed with nurture and compassion. 
Moreover, I assisted her with Shadow Work and Inner Child healing. Growing up she had a parental figure who constantly belittled her, called her an “idiot”, gave her silent treatment when she didn’t perform to their expectations, etc. (Coincidentally, the partner she was in a toxic relationship with, resembled her parental figure to a T).
As we worked on healing her inner child and inner teenager through shadow work, guided meditations, and addressed any known generational trauma, she began to revert the subconscious beliefs that attracted her to toxic, unstable relationships. Moreover, she began to recognize her worth on a deeper level, which has created space for healthier relationships to enter her life and a profound strength which led her to break free from unhealthy ones.
Moreover, she learned to fulfill her own needs and fully trust in her highest self on a deeper level. This allowed her to surrender to a higher knowing and live life on her own terms – at peace; fully flourishing in her potential; no longer turning to alcohol or binge eating to cope with her emotional pain; no longer jumping from partner to partner to fill her voids; and honoring herself for the divine woman she has always been.
As we begin to restructure and strengthen the FOUNDATION we have within ourselves, we will discover that the art of letting go comes more effortless and natural. We can let go of people, expectations, resentment, and unhealthy relationships with ease, grace, and comfort when we bring our root chakra back into harmony and reclaim our god-given birthrights. Our relationship with ourselves becomes more solid, which organically attracts healthier bonds and creates infinite streams of peace from within.
This takes effort, and this takes work, considering we sometimes may have been living most of our life with the subconscious belief that we are alone, unworthy, abandoned, and/or unsafe.
Strengthening your foundation and fulfilling your needs from within, will allow you to feel light and at peace with yourself rather than heavy and drowning in your abandonment wound upon waking up in the morning. You are calm in the body rather than anxiously wondering what your partner or ex partner is doing without you, or who they may be potentially loving on. You can feel safe in your own body, feel whole and complete whether on your own or with a partner.
You will be capable of fulfilling your own needs, accept your current reality with ease, live authentically and joyously, and fully flourish into the righteous, confident, and loving being that you were destined to be.
This magnificent transformation takes dedication, and a true desire to live up to your fullest potential. In my mentorship program, I help people who are dedicated to their transformation, healing, and ascension.
I will assist you in accelerating your self-transformative process through re-balancing compromised energy centers and helping you reclaim your divine birthrights, that way you can fulfill your needs on your own and live freely. I also provide you the tools you may need (e.g., guided meditations, ACT (acceptance commitment therapy) exercises, breathing techniques, etc.) to keep you balanced and centered throughout your unique journey in reclaiming your freedom.
This transformation will allow you to go from being stuck on this “never-ending” emotional roller coaster that is making you sick (emotionally and perhaps, physically) … to flourishing in more peace, tranquility, stability, and health.
Moreover, you will go from attracting unhealthy/toxic relationships (partners, friends, bosses, etc.) …to attracting healthier, more stable relationships with people who truly value and cherish you for who you are.
xo, Remi

Voids and Joy

We all have voids.. some different than others. Some deeper than others. Some of us fill them with loving the wrong people or staying in unhealthy relationships because we are afraid of being alone, ingesting unhealthy foods for the temporary release of dopamine, or binge watching shows to avoid boredom (feeling our voids). We can also find ourselves filling voids by scrolling through social media excessively in order to avoid sitting in stillness or sitting with uncomfortable emotions; or abusing substances (e.g., alcohol, marijuana) in order to suppress undesirable feelings or even to feel a sense of liveliness in our life. The list can go on. However, what would happen if we tried to fill our voids with joy instead of these temporary, detrimental fixes?

Of course, we can fill our voids with love. However, in certain instances, unconditional love may be hard to find around us or within us depending on the given space or circumstance we are in. In these instances, I find that filling the void with joy comes easier. When we feel deep sadness or anxiety, trying to love ourselves or fill our voids with self-love can be quite the task. However, joy may come easier and becomes more effortless as time goes by, as long as we practice. We can find joy by putting our favorite hoodie or shirt on as if it were our first time wearing it. We can find joy in one of our favorite songs and listen to it as if it were our first time hearing it. We can find joy in a laughing child or happy animal and share that joy with them from near or far. We can find joy in our favorite tea mug. The list can go on. As long as we make an effort into finding even the slightest amount of joy in something, whether it’s big or small, we are healing and we are filling our voids. As we do this over and over again, we fill our voids gradually, we come closer to love, and we become more full.

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Generational Trauma

Before jumping into generational trauma, let’s address the definition of “trauma”. Trauma is an experience that occurs in an individual’s life that causes mental, physical, and/or emotional harm. It can be a disturbance to the individual’s life and cause one to feel a lack of control over the situation. In the mental health setting, trauma can be considered a “big T” trauma or “little t” trauma. For instance, a death of a family member would be considered a “big T” trauma and something like emotional abuse would be considered a “little t” trauma. Some people may experience multiple “little t” traumas, others may experience one “big T” trauma, and some may experience a mixture of the two. Nonetheless, both forms of trauma are valid in the way they impact an individual’s emotions, mental state, and overall well-being. A few other causes of trauma can be severe illness or injury, sexual or physical abuse, natural disasters, loss of financial income, etc. “Big T” traumas are usually life-threatening and/or associated with PTSD. These cause serious distress to the individual; and while “little t” traumas are not required to meet PTSD criteria, evidence now shows that repeated exposure to “little t” traumas (e.g., emotional abuse) can cause similar or greater distress than one “Big T” traumatic experience. In result of trauma, emotional and physical reactions occur, such as anxiety, digestive issues, lack of confidence, insomnia, intrusive thoughts, etc. In children or young adults, trauma is apparent through reactions as well (e.g., anger, frequent tummy aches, attention-seeking behaviors, consistently misbehaving at school, avoiding school, etc.).

With all of this in mind, we can now consider the term generational trauma. From a scientific lens, generational trauma, or intergenerational trauma, is transferred in between generations. A child can hold core wounds from a biological parent off of unconscious loyalty, and that parent is holding the wounds of their parent, and so forth. Generational trauma will run down one’s lineage until someone breaks the pattern. For example, emotional wounds pertaining to grief, lack of self-worth, physical disease, financial struggle, amongst others can be passed down to the child. The child will experience similar life situations that trigger these core beliefs/wounds to be felt or re-lived since they have been embedded into their DNA. The wounds and core beliefs a family hold as a unit will in result, paint its own unique family dynamic. From a spiritual standpoint, it is said that whatever our parents or ancestors experienced (e.g., racism, emotional abuse, substance abuse, relationship attachments, illness, poverty, etc.), we may also experience similar events in this lifetime. Moreover, theories suggest that until the generational “curse” is broken, it will continue to be passed down. It is said that our ancestors in heaven are guiding us through the process of healing ourselves. As we heal ourselves, we also heal our ancestors and we prevent our children/future children from going through similar “passed-down” traumas.

How can we identify generational trauma within ourselves? The answer to this is to become aware of patterns in your family. Do you see a similarity in the way you handle your emotions and the way your mother/father or grandmother/grandfather handles theirs? Do you see a pattern in the way your emotions are validated by your significant other and the way your father or mother validates their own significant other’s emotions? Perhaps you have gone through poverty, and your grandmother, and grandmother’s father experienced similar situations. It is also said that irrational fears can be due to generational trauma. Moreover, we can identify generational trauma in many ways, such as, through shadow work and through uncovering core beliefs that are deeply engrained in our subconscious mind.

The possibilities in discovering the generational trauma we hold in our DNA are endless. Through inner work, dream analysis, and self-discovery we can unpack baggage and heal core beliefs that have been passed down to us for generations. We can break these patterns for not only ourselves, but for our children or future children as well. As we discover our roots on a spiritual and psychological level, we can heal not only ourselves, but we help heal our parents and our ancestors. As we heal these core beliefs, we break generational curses within our lineage and within the entire collective, since all is connected.

Author: Remi G.
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Blog: https://www.ensembletherapy.com/blog/what-is-generational-trauma
Book: "It Didn't Start With You" by Mark Wolynn

Learning to Love Yourself (Pt.1)

Many times throughout our journeys, we hear people say things along the lines of… “You need to love yourself” or “You deserve better, love yourself!”. However, the term, “love yourself” can be foreign to us if we do not actually learn how to. Depending on each individual’s journey, loving one’s self is a process and sometimes we can’t effectively love ourselves if we don’t come to know who we are first. Loving yourself and self-care is not always relaxing in a bubble bath and/or treating yourself to a pedicure/manicure. It’s getting to know your inner child and nurturing the inner you who has been hurt or who has felt neglected in the past.

Although there are many acts of self-love and self-care, one practice I find very effective is: Strengthening awareness of your thoughts (i.e., inner-dialogue) and reframing the thoughts that don’t serve your Highest Good.

There are many thoughts passing through our mind throughout the day that we don’t recognize until we actually gain self-awareness. Thoughts like, “I can’t believe I am feeling sad again, wow!”; “I’m such an idiot” (even saying this jokingly is detrimental because our spirit doesn’t know the difference); “I am difficult to deal with”; “I shouldn’t be feeling this way, I’m trippin’”; “I look gross”; etc. Many of our thoughts can be existent on either a conscious or subconscious level, which is why meditation is important in order to gain awareness of those happening on a more subconscious level. These thoughts going through our head may have been engrained in our minds from past lovers, friends, parents, or we made ourselves believe these things due to certain life experiences. Gaining self-awareness of our thoughts and reframing them to ones of more kindness and compassion is a beautiful act of self-love.

It’s important to know that not all thoughts should be reframed right from the jump. For instance, there are times where a thought or form of inner-dialogue is a cry for love from our inner child or a younger version of ourselves. As we recognize these certain thoughts that don’t serve us, we can then distinguish the root of it (e.g., an emotion); then, we can do shadow work to send light to these aspects of ourselves rather than focusing on the thought right off the bat.

At times, we may even identify with our thoughts (e.g., allow them to define us, believe them to be true, get lost in them). As we stay aware of our thoughts rather than automatically identifying with them, we gain a deeper level of understanding for ourselves. In result, we learn to nurture our past selves or our inner child more effectively. We can then provide love and meet our needs that may have not been met in the past. As we practice and gain more self-love for ourselves, we then attract partners, friends, colleagues, and acquaintances that see us the way we see ourselves, and most importantly, love us the way we deserve to be loved.

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The Dark/Shadow Side

What is the Shadow Self? What is our darkness, exactly? A lot of us define this as our insecurities, our triggers, our inner demons, our ego, etc. Psychologist, Carl Jung, defines this concept as the unknown or unconscious aspect of our personality. I’ve noticed a lot of people are naturally programmed to reject this side of ourselves for various reasons, but in my opinion, that is possibly the worst thing you can do for yourself. Whatever you define your Shadow Self as, I encourage you to embrace that side of you, rather than reject or despise it. You may ask, “How do I know what my dark side is?” There are various ways to identify it. Sometimes you’ll discover it through meditation and deep self-discovery. Sometimes you will notice your shadow erupt during a very minor or severe argument, disagreement, comment, specific scenario, etc. We can sometimes come to know our shadow self when we find ourselves judging others or when we feel an irritation towards someone’s actions/beliefs. Although our feelings and emotions that flare up during a specific trigger may sometimes appear insignificant, they actually hold immense value and deeper truths about yourself.

The dark side or your shadow self can be the side of you that wants to scream in anger or despair. It can be the side of you that acts out almost like a child when you are emotionally triggered by someone or something. It is the pain or discomfort underneath our emotional dysregulation; and if we dig deep enough underneath that pain, we will discover the root or source of it all. Let it be known that there is no such thing as spiritual ascendance without addressing both the light and dark. Moreover, there is no such thing as elevating in your relationships, career, and self-growth journey without addressing your shadow self. As we come to understand where our anxiety, depression, and/or anger is stemmed from, we are then capable of gaining a deeper understanding of our Shadow Self, or unconscious side of ourselves. However, before seeing or understanding where it is rooted from, we must gain awareness. If you have no self-awareness of your emotions, thoughts, actions, or feelings, how can you heal or ascend? Awareness comes first. Healing and/or spiritual elevation follows.

Our dark side is not inherently bad or good… it just is. It is the unconscious or suppressed side of ourselves and with no awareness of this aspect, there is no true growth or self-discovery. As we gain this deeper understanding of ourselves, we can then learn how to nurture, love, trust, and listen to ourselves appropriately and more compassionately. When we learn how to love, nurture, and embrace our own wounds, we will then learn how to nurture the shadow side of others as well with no judgement and with pure love.

As we increase our ability in seeing through emotional triggers by understanding that it is simply pain buried underneath veils of illusion, we can then learn how to transcend it appropriately with pure compassion and light. We cannot fight our darkness. It will get louder. We cannot push it to the side hoping it will disappear. It will roll back over. If we wanted to see better in a dark room, we would turn the light on. It is the same thing with our soul, our emotional body, or our conscious Being. We learn how to find the light and we learn how to nurture the shadow side of ourselves that was restricted from authentic love at one point in our life or for our whole life. In result, we heal, we see, we know, and we transcend into a deeper level of peace and higher level of consciousness/being.

Written by,
Remi G.